Don’t Look Back Too Much,You Aren’t There Anymore

Our ability to retrieve memories from our past and relive them in our minds is impressive. While we all have bad memories that may haunt us from time to time, we do have some great memories that seem to last forever.

What makes those memories so profound?

Every year around the Labour Day weekend I reminisce of my time moving away to a different city to attend college. I was 17 and moving to a whole new world 1.5 hours away from the only town I grew up in. It was so exciting yet frightening all in one. I can still remember the sights, the sounds and the smells of my first apartment. I vividly remember the feeling of my first day at college and the reality that I was becoming an adult. But did I feel that way then?

Why did that time of my life seem so great? Was it as great then as I believe it to be now?

“I can’t go back to yesterday – because I was a different person then.” – Lewis Carroll

vhs_0The whole deal with memories is that when we recall them, we are looking back using the wisdom of our life. Like watching a classic movie remastered for modern technology, our memories always seem so much more vivid than the time we lived them. Often, we wish we were there again, back into the space of our mind, feeling comforted by the enjoyment we had thought at the time.

If we only knew then what we know now.

But we can’t go back.

MemoryLane-300x201.jpgDepending on how long ago your memory resides, we are not the same people we once were back then. Our experiences change our perception of what we once were and time fades the unpleasantries along the way. Our memories become massaged, and our wisdom creates a masterpiece of the images that we behold. We can even soften the sharpness of bad memories if our life experiences since then have improved.

We are all different today than we were yesterday, our memories will either get better or worse depending on what difference you have made in your life. It is why from time to time; we check up on our memory and wonder: How far have I come?

Who created this quote?

Charles Lutwidge Dodgson, better known by his pen name Lewis Carroll, was an English writer, mathematician, logician, Anglican deacon, and photographer.

His most famous writings are Alice’s Adventures in Wonderland, its sequel Through the Looking-Glass, which includes the poem “Jabberwocky”, and the poem The Hunting of the Snark – all examples of the genre of literary nonsense.

Letting Go of Your Comforts for the Uncertainty of Greatness

We all have ideal realities of who we want to be, what we want to do and how we want to get there. These ideals spin in our heads every day and the conflict between what we are now and what we want to be is always a war we wage.

One of the biggest reasons why I decided to stop writing in my former blog is that it didn’t feel right writing there anymore. The purpose of that blog was to allow me to heal from a past that I wanted behind me. I had written all that I could on the subject and so, that blog became synonymous to that era of my life. I am healed, but writing posts for that growing blog made me feel like I was going backwards. It was hard to leave that blog behind, it had a growing following, I was getting great hits from search engines, it was being responded to, but at the end of the day, it just wasn’t me anymore. I need to be a healed person to be a greater person than I was yesterday, writing on that blog pushed me back from that.

“We cannot become what we need to be by remaining what we are.” – Max Dupree

That era of my life is over now, I have moved on and this new blog is a reflection of my new life -my healed life. I am sure in time, this blog too will fall victim to my ever changing life. Who knows where this one will take me?

Who created this quote?

Max Depree was an American businessman and writer. A son of D. J. De Pree, founder of Herman Miller office furniture company, he and his brother Hugh De Pree assumed leadership of the company in the early 1960s, Hugh becoming CEO and president in 1962. Max succeeded his brother Hugh as CEO in 1980 and served in that capacity to 1987, and he was a member of the company’s Board of Directors until 1995. His book Leadership is an Art has sold more than 800,000 copies.