The greatest weakness we have as humans is that we know we can give up. Giving up too soon, or too late; our survival is directly tied to knowing the balance. Seeing things through until there is nothing left to see and understanding our true self enough to know what that is, is the key ingredient to success. Those who find that “sweet spot” are those who make a real difference to our society.
While we all have many reasons why we give up something or someone, here are some of the most common ones
We would rather give up than change
When we are faced with the uncertainty of change, giving up feels much more comfortable. Our comfort zones protect us from harm. Why would we risk being in pain when we have the option to just give up?
We care too much about what others think
There are so many times in our lives that we fail to launch on thoughts we have just because of what others might think of us. Judgement from others is one of our biggest fears as judgement removes us from the norm and places us in jeopardy of being ostracized. We want to belong, so we believe that by giving up our disruption, we will stay safe within the herd.
We become distracted by others
So many times in our lives we forget that we are running our own race. As we are running along in our lives, we become distracted by what others are doing. We are always comparing ourselves to others and give up with the feeling of despair. Instead of believing in our ability enough to do better, we convince ourselves that what our neighbour is doing is the best and we can not improve on that. Nothing has augmented this more than the advent of social media.
We lack the discipline to see it through
Change is tough. We don’t want to die. When we are under stress from a change in our lives, we want a reprieve, a break to comfort us. We revert to old habits that feel good and soon enough, we fall off the wagon and give up. Believing that the comfort of our former selves is greater than the benefit of our new self.
We just want the result without the need of having to learn
In the instant gratification world we live, we have fallen into the trap of fantasizing about the end without realizing there is a middle. It is that middle part where we learn to become great and not the end result. But we believe the end result is where our greatness is and don’t care about what it takes to get there. If what it takes to get there becomes too complicated, we give up on the result and move to another that we perceive is more attainable.
“Our greatest weakness lies in giving up.” Thomas Edison
The principle of success is quite simple: work hard, pivot, celebrate and repeat. We give up too soon whenever any of those steps become uncomfortable to bear. Even when we achieve our highest accolade, the thought of repeating can become daunting, and then we fade.
To become our better selves, we have to realize that with all change, it is challenging at first, painfully dirty in the middle and amazing at the end. Oh! And then we have to change again!
Who created this quote?
Thomas Alva Edison – was an American inventor and businessman, who has been described as America’s greatest inventor. He developed many devices that greatly influenced life around the world, including the phonograph, the motion picture camera, and the long-lasting, practical electric light bulb. Dubbed “The Wizard of Menlo Park,” he was one of the first inventors to apply the principles of mass production and large-scale teamwork to the process of invention, and is often credited with the creation of the first industrial research laboratory.